After reading chapter two, I have to
accept I lowered my head and thought to myself “oh god my most important
arguments have no potential what so ever because apparently all I do is fight.”
If I want a new cellphone: fight
Refuse to go running: fight
I’m sick and want to leave school: fight
Clearly I tend to be more aggressive than passive and no wonder I lose most of my arguments. I learned that I have to stimulate emotions, so basically I can use pathos in order to hit the soft spot of my opponent. I can be more wistful and manipulate my opponent into changing his opinion and finally carry out my plan so that it actually works.
I decided to practice right here right now on my beautiful blog. I think I’ll go with classic arguments I have with my dad because if I go with previous arguments (fights) with my mom, it will just take this to a whole other level of complicated.
Ok, so this past year I have been in a midlife crisis when it comes to my equestrian life. I have had no accomplishments what so ever because my horse Native decided to go shenanigans every time she walked into the competition arena. We found out it was this huge medical problem in her hooves. Any way I was devastated and for me the only solution was..... A NEW HORSE OF COURSE! My mom was a lost battle from the beginning, but my dad is a little easier if I want to apply what Heinrichs has taught me.
Let’s start from scratch.
Changing his mood: I make sure he notices how much it hurts seeing Native stand in her stable for 6 months of recovery, and meanwhile I get watery eyes every time I don’t get to compete. This makes him feel sorry for me and therefore more vulnerable to my arguments
Changing his mind: I have to convince him that the only way I can keep pursuing my dream is if a new horse joins the family probably mentioning certain ones I have seen and are pretty cheap. He can hopefully see that buying a champion horse is the best chance I have in winning the Nationals and South American championships next year
Desire to act: Now I can make my epic puppy face just to make sure he still knows I’m devastated and then start acting on my own by doing my own research and calculations about shipping and expenses if we were to bring a horse from Brazil or Europe. This way he sees I am already doing my part and hopefully he will pitch in and feel a desire to act in order to solve the problem.
I will put this master plan into action and on my next blog I might tell you if the mission was a success or failure!!
If I want a new cellphone: fight
Refuse to go running: fight
I’m sick and want to leave school: fight
Clearly I tend to be more aggressive than passive and no wonder I lose most of my arguments. I learned that I have to stimulate emotions, so basically I can use pathos in order to hit the soft spot of my opponent. I can be more wistful and manipulate my opponent into changing his opinion and finally carry out my plan so that it actually works.
I decided to practice right here right now on my beautiful blog. I think I’ll go with classic arguments I have with my dad because if I go with previous arguments (fights) with my mom, it will just take this to a whole other level of complicated.
Ok, so this past year I have been in a midlife crisis when it comes to my equestrian life. I have had no accomplishments what so ever because my horse Native decided to go shenanigans every time she walked into the competition arena. We found out it was this huge medical problem in her hooves. Any way I was devastated and for me the only solution was..... A NEW HORSE OF COURSE! My mom was a lost battle from the beginning, but my dad is a little easier if I want to apply what Heinrichs has taught me.
Let’s start from scratch.
Changing his mood: I make sure he notices how much it hurts seeing Native stand in her stable for 6 months of recovery, and meanwhile I get watery eyes every time I don’t get to compete. This makes him feel sorry for me and therefore more vulnerable to my arguments
Changing his mind: I have to convince him that the only way I can keep pursuing my dream is if a new horse joins the family probably mentioning certain ones I have seen and are pretty cheap. He can hopefully see that buying a champion horse is the best chance I have in winning the Nationals and South American championships next year
Desire to act: Now I can make my epic puppy face just to make sure he still knows I’m devastated and then start acting on my own by doing my own research and calculations about shipping and expenses if we were to bring a horse from Brazil or Europe. This way he sees I am already doing my part and hopefully he will pitch in and feel a desire to act in order to solve the problem.
I will put this master plan into action and on my next blog I might tell you if the mission was a success or failure!!
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